Thursday, March 17, 2005

Love for Dummies (or a lesson I learned some time ago and sometimes forget)

Love for Dummies: A lesson!!

Recapitulation for the new reader.
There is our main character Jesùs after dating the little Lupita for 5 months and 3 weeks knowing She can not make her mind about accepting him, start dating other guys or return to her old love (In this case the villian and rival of our hero, person I do not really care at all honeslty).
Twist. Our Hero offered not to ask Lupita out for a while till she can have time for herself and decide about her life not about her love life, according to a previous issue He prefers to see her happy doing what She wants and just stand by her side to help.
Twist 2.Lupita has said our hero that She is in the same position and that nothing has really really changed (can you believe it!!).

This time I will write about one of the lessons I learned some time ago and I really need to put in practice again but is a little difficult to do so.
Once a nice friend of mine gave me her theory about love.

She said..

" I have to be honest to you , I have never believe in that so called complement love or soul mate approach, We say in spanish that We are looking for our middle orange a person that can complement the other half missing...well that is so wrong!!"
"Just imagine that you are half an orange and you are enormous and well you just find another half that is in hell are you going to put them together!!? okey let`s imagine you finally found a half that is the same size you have...How stupid would you feel by realizing that the flavor is different to the one you have, She is so sweet and you so sour or viceversa"
"Okey just imagine you are lucky enough to find half an orange that is the same size and the same flavor as yours, but you do not have the same pieces in your orange as She in hell would you try to put together something that internally doesn`t match?"

So Well my theory is a follows She said...

"I am a big, big orange, complete, full in flavor and mature..what am I looking for? simple another orange that is complete and mature or trying to be mature so We both of us can make a delicious, delicious juice!!!

And well that is one of the best lessons I have ever heard from a friend..and I believe in that!!
Sad and funny is to know that Destiny has always different plans..right!?

Have a great day!!..JESUS ANTONIO


Sask 1 said...

But don't you find the hard part with the oranges is finding one that feels the same about you as you feel about them.I always find the oranges i can have are the ones i don't want.

antonio said...

Funny thing June, I understand totally what you mean, sometimes happens you find out THE ORANGE of your life but sometimes you have to learn to fight or to give up at proper time.
my problem is that I intellectualized everything I do, the same happens with love so that means that for me I am looking for an orange to share what I am but I have to be wise not to be only with the oranges I can have that is the fun part of it...The other part is that If you don not want certain orange..jsut do not be with that orange!!...first part is to love yourself much so you can have a balance of the things you can do for love.
just never do something to get your limits as I know I have to do with Lupita, I know love is hard but who knows maybe suddenly you might find the orange you want or need, just do not try to look for the orange in a desperate way because the more you look the less you find...:)...kisses to you June!!..JESUS ANTONIO

Ubod_ng_Lumpia said...

what your friend said really made sense...

hmm.. it makes me think of my situation too... i just wish you all the luck jesus :) --kino--

antonio said...

Hey Kino...yes my friend so nice and incredibly wise :).
hah sorry for making you thin over it!! :)
that happens to people around me I made them think over :)
About Lupita I am really really crushed by the way She is..makes so sad and so happy at the same time...I am taking some days off (Sat, Sun, Mon, Tues, and Wed) and on Thursday I will have a coffe with Lupita and i hope to have the nerve to just call the quits in case she doesn`t see me in her future and stop seeing her or continue trying and trying but only If she says to keep at it and understand well !!:) :( hahaha..JESUS ANTONIO
wish me luck as you always do!!

Sask 1 said...

I understand what your saying Jesus Antonio.You see for the last year i found what i thought was my other half of the orange.But ,im not who he wants.He says he likes me a lot.which to me means he's only with me until something better comes along.I asked him to be honest with me on friday about how he feels and ive taken his absence of any sort of commitment as a sign i need to move on.But it is hard when i still want him.wishing you better luck in your love life.

antonio said...

Hey June!!
Sorry to hear for what you are passing tru my dear June.if He is just waiting for someone better (better to his eyes) is HIS problem not yours, just do not let him hurt you, If he can not take responsiblity for what He does and says is HIS problem not yours.
You aer going to learn through life that We are not really commited to anybody but ourselves, you can control what you do,think and say but you can not control others, jsut be wise and remember that people have different ways to show their love, measure If he really cares for you (is much better that word than "liking",If he hesitates is his problem not yours..just act in coherency to yourself and to your feelings..
there is an old saying "You can not lose what it hasn`t been yours" or " let it be free if it returns it was always yours".
Dear June be strong love is strange who knows maybe after a big shake in his life he will realize what it means to be with you, if He doesn`t just do not retain him, let him go and start to structure you life again and again, but do not lose your spark of life and your kindness remember nobody is the same..:)
Trust in yourself to trust in people!!
I wish you teh best dear June I am sure eventually what you need will come!! :)..keep me posted on any development..About me well i need to see what Thursday is reserving to me (I will talk to Lupita at this point I already know what to do but is very difficult to what people think is the obvious)..wish me luck..and iwill keep you in my prayers as you do!! :)..JESUS ANTONIO

Ubod_ng_Lumpia said...

no worries jesus...

i think of my situation very often too :) i just wish you the best my friend :) --kino--

antonio said...

Thank you Kino!! i will see Lupita till next sunday :( hahahah!!!..JESUS ANTONIO